my church. . . the soap opera

so i went to a family from my church's house today to hang out and get a few recipes for camp cooking.

the husband announced to me "we need a church to go to" i said why - and he responded with "cuz we need one" -- i asked if that ment they were leaving beaver and he said yes.

that bothers me. . . not that they are leaving - but for the reasons - conflict - unresolved conflict. . . to me that's not biblical

but what can i do, who can i speak with, and is it really my place?

after all it's the pastor's wife we are talking about - how does one point out that she was wrong - she lied -- and i wasn't even involved in the sitution but from all accounts - for some very fair folks who were involved -- she lied, not my friend.

why is it that we place the pastor on such a high place of untouchablity -- like he and his family can do no wrong -- why is it that it's difficult to lovingly confront and seek healing -- we would rather see division and hard feeling instead of rocking the boat.

so this family is most likely going to leave -- and i know it was my friend's desire to try and forgive -- she was honest when she shared that she wanted to forgive -- even right after the situation happened -- but they will leave - and not only will this leave hurt feelings with them - but i can see several other families upset over this - several keys familys.

again -- i feel like a few years ago -- my family is factured and i can't do anything about it. - my heart hurts for this family -- and i can understand my pastor and his wife.

they came into a close knit group -- they are outsiders trying to get in -- that has to be frustating for them -- but sometimes i feel she is too controlling and too senetive and he is too unwilling to hear us -- we are all tired of john -- after a year and half -- let's move on -- and i'm not the only one -- i've heard many people say the same thing without me saying anything

i know God has not brought us through 4 years of nothing - no pastor - to have it end like this -- i know He desires more for us and out of us - but what has to change? -- and how - and what's my role?

to many questions - no anwers

francie